ChatGPT helps me see if I have any hidden anger within me

 Here are some powerful questions to help you uncover any lingering anger within you:

Self-Reflection on Anger

1. What situations or people still bring up feelings of resentment or frustration when I think about them?

- Situations where someone is trying to convince me to buy something. Also situations where people are judging and measuring each other's supposed value.

Have I ever downplayed or justified my anger instead of fully feeling and processing it?

Maybe in the past. But recently I've been feeling it, and it can be painful.

Is there someone I still feel the need to prove something to, or whose recognition I crave?

- There is a feeling that I am still not "good enough" for my family, however this feeling might be a miscalculation.

If I were completely honest, what would I want to say (or scream) to someone from my past?

- Children are not supposed to try to be good enough to deserve love.

Do I feel tension or tightness in my body when recalling certain past events? Where do I feel it?

- I do feel some tension in the center of my chest.

Triggers & Reactions

6. When was the last time I felt anger? What was I really angry about beneath the surface?

- When a bar did not allow my friend to enter because the bar has a new rule of not allowing Vietnamese people in. I was angry about the bar telling me friend that he was supposedly "not good enough".

6. Do I react to minor inconveniences with more frustration than the situation warrants?

- Only when I'm driving in Saigon.

6. Are there recurring themes in my anger? (e.g., feeling disrespected, unheard, abandoned, betrayed?)

- Being taken advantage of, being judged as being "not good enough".

6. Do I struggle with forgiving someone, even though I intellectually believe I should?

- I think there are still lingering feelings of non-forgiveness towards others and myself.

6. When I get angry, do I tend to suppress it, lash out, or express it in a balanced way?

- It does get expressed, but it isn't violent.

Deeper Layers of Healing

11. What would it take for me to fully release any remaining anger I may be holding?

- I think exercise would be helpful, and also talking to trusted people about my anger.

If I let go of my anger completely, what part of me would resist? Why?

- The part of me that wants revenge. Because it believes that people who hurt others, deserve to suffer.

Is my anger protecting me from feeling something deeper, like sadness, fear, or vulnerability?

- It's very possible, anger does feel less painful than sadness.

11. How has holding onto anger shaped my identity? Who would I be without it?

- It has made my identity hold this component: "I am someone who believes that people who hurt others deserve to suffer"

- Without it, I would feel more at peace.

Can I allow myself to feel compassion for the source of my anger—without excusing harmful actions?

- Definitely yes