My Transformation Story

 

From Chaos to Clarity: A Transformation Story by Nick Cabrejos

Let me tell you about a guy who was stuck—really stuck. This guy had no clue about the psychological programming running his life like a puppet on strings. He believed happiness was something you had to find in someone else, specifically in romantic relationships. He had no idea that his actions were often being decided by psychological childhood wounds inherited from generations and generations of past ancestors.

He lived with a crushing fear of loneliness, jumping from one relationship to another. The moment things got uncomfortable, he’d hit the eject button—boom—relationship over. But guess what? That didn’t solve anything. Instead, it left him drowning in guilt and shame. Criticism from women? That felt like taking a punch to the gut every time. He was on a hamster wheel, chasing happiness but never getting anywhere.

Hitting Rock Bottom

Every transformation story starts with a breaking point, and this one had a few. The first was when a college girlfriend ghosted him. The pain was excruciating and for the first time he knew what it felt like to hear his own mind screaming. It was relentless, chaotic, and for the first time ever, he became painfully aware of how out of control his thoughts were.

The next wake-up call came when he ended a three-year relationship and, on impulse, jumped into a new one. At first, there was the honeymoon phase — new romance, new energy. But within a month, the delayed guilt and shame hit like a freight train. It was suffocating.

And here’s the kicker: his mind started to produce thoughts that wished for the end of his life. No one’s prepared for that level of darkness. Because of a total distrust of mental health medication, he searched for an organic way of dealing with challenging mental health.

The Turning Point

Luckily, he’d spent four years learning about non-dualism. But here’s the thing: knowledge is just potential power. The real power comes when you apply it.

Through meditation and the teachings of non-dualism, he learned to observe his thoughts and emotions from a distance. He didn’t fight them or run from them. Instead, he watched them with love and patience until they faded away. And that’s when the breakthrough came: realizing that our natural state—the place we all come back to—is one of calm and neutrality.

Sure, it takes time to return to neutral after a big trigger, but here’s the truth: you can always get back there. The only thing that stops you is disbelief. That disbelief leads to unhealthy habits—addictions, distractions, anything to escape the pain. But when you believe in your ability to heal, everything changes.

The Rebirth

Fast forward to today: Self-forgiveness? Check. Forgiveness towards others? Check. The childhood traumas that once held him hostage? He’s actively healing them, and here’s the wild part: he sees these wounds as part of a generational chain of pain going back to the dawn of life itself.

But instead of being a victim of this chain, he’s breaking it. And because he’s doing the work, he’s ready to guide others. He knows what it takes to confront the shadows, to step into the light, and he’s not afraid to help others do the same.

The result? A quieter mind, a significant reduction in unhealthy coping mechanisms, and a sense of clarity and purpose he’s never felt before.

"Shadow work is the path of the heart warrior" - Carl Jung

The Takeaway

Now, listen up. If you’re stuck, hurting, or feel like there’s no way out, here’s the truth: there’s always a way. Pain is temporary. Your natural state—the one most people have forgotten about—is calm and neutral. It’s there, waiting for you to come back to it.

But healing starts with belief. If you think it’s not possible, you’re stuck. But even a sliver of courage—1%—is enough to get the ball rolling. Start small. Face your tiniest fears. Build your confidence. It’s like leveling up in a video game.

"Whether you think you can, or think you can't, you're right." - Henry Ford

And here’s the deal: you’re not alone. He’s here, ready to walk this path with you. If you’re ready to confront your shadows and step into the light, he’s got your back. It won’t be easy, but it’ll be worth it.

Now, the only question is: are you ready to take the first step?