Unattachment

Unattachment

 What examples of this come to mind when reading this word?

The first thing that comes to my mind is Ramana Maharshi, an Indian man who lived in the Indian town of Tiruvannamalai. He left his hometown at 16 years of age and moved to Tiruvannamalai without telling his family, this was after realizing a huge insight. 

When his mother found out he had moved to this new town, she begged him to return. However he was totally unmoved by her requests. Not out of any emotional reason, but just because he didn't see any reason to fulfill that request. It must have seemed cruel from her perspective at first, but later on it led to her having a huge insight as well.

Ramana Maharshi started becoming known in Tiruvannamalai as a spiritual teacher, despite not trying to teach. He actually preferred to spend time in solitude. This is the part that trips me out. He left home, to move to a town in the countryside and do NOTHING. He wasn't looking for excitement, an adrenaline rush, he wasn't trying to "feel more alive." He left to be totally present and do nothing. He had total faith that living this way was the most logical way to live according to his insights.

This makes me think about myself now. What am I attached to? Every month or so another thing sheds away. One of the most recent things to shed are: the desires of my mind which I am aware of. There is one in particular that is still in the process of being shed, and I am letting it work itself out (if you try to rush it, it actually stays longer). 

Do you have anything that you are terrified to let go of? How would you feel at the end of your life if you never got married? If you never had a family? These are the questions that have been manifesting in my mind. I used to be absolutely TERRIFIED to even think about these things happening. At this moment, the fear is steadily decreasing and very soon it will reach 0%. And it feels GREAT! I feel less worry than ever before. So much peace, and I feel grateful for it. These were some of my deepest attachments, so it makes me wonder how is my life about to change now? I guess I'll just have stay tuned and enjoy this movie called life!

How did I un-attach from the desires of being married and having a family? By realizing that happiness is already within us. I had been searching for happiness in relationships for years, and it's taken years to realize that it was a miscalculation. The "Love of My Life" is life itself. This is it. The search is over. If someone no longer wishes to spend time with me, it will have little emotional effect on me. My faith in life is so huge now that I honestly feel that my true happiness cannot be touched by any other person except for myself. And that feels so FREE.

My family visited me this year and last year in Vietnam. Did I miss them when they left? OF COURSE I DID. And the feeling of missing them turned into a HUGE motivation to give back to them. I am attracting financial independence so I can share it with them, and so they can experience a life where money is no longer something that has to be worried about. Instead of feeling sad I am choosing to feel motivated and excited!

I wish this for you as well. Dear reader, I wish that you find the faith already within you. And if you need help locating it, you can always contact me and we'll figure it out together.

Much love!